Gomez gives out better relationship advice than like 90% of dudes.
Gomez Addams is a suave motherfucker who loves his wife more than his own life.
Everyone should want a Gomez. He’s p cool.
Gomez and Morticia Addams actually have a very loving and extremely healthy relationship, both in the old TV show and in the more recent movies. They were also one of the first television couples to be shown to have an active (albeit offscreen) sex life. Their frank attitude towards sexuality was shocking in its’ time, but their relationship and their family dynamic is actually more functional and more…dare I say it…sane than most families portrayed on TV.
The comedy in the show came from the family’s “odd” lifestyle, rather than from infighting and petty bickering, or worse, as was common on other shows of the time, thinly veiled references to spousal abuse. They didn’t make fun of each other or act like their children were creatures from another world. Were they strange and outside of social norms? Yes. Were they united in creating a loving home and being good, supportive parents? Absolutely.
These two support and adore their children, care for an aging mother and an estranged brother, put family before everything, and they love each other, wholly, fiercely, without reserve. They are every bit as much in love after at least a decade of marriage as they were the day they met.
Relationship goals. LIFE goals.
Just remembered in the second movie when their third child became “normal” for a period and although they were shocked and didn’t know how to handle it, they didn’t mistreat the child or love it any less. They accepted the difference, even though it was hard for them.
Reblogged for truth.
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Posts about Gomez and Morticia Addams are almost always uplifting and I’m happy to have them on my dash, but I think my favorite bit about this conversation is what Gomez is actually saying to Fester.
It’s nobody’s surprise that many of the aesthetic and thematic elements of The Addams Family in its various incarnations are influenced by Gothic tradition (not goth, that mostly came later. And not Goth, that was much much much too early), and I think Gomez’s words are a dead bullseye in terms of Gothic mentality.
“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”
The sublime is a recurring theme throughout Gothic literature. Although the word (like “awesome”) has lost a lot of it’s original luster over the intervening decades, sublime doesn’t really mean elevated and lofty (or even heavenly) as it’s often used today, but rather something possessing the power and grandeur to induce awe and veneration in the mind of the beholder. Although less than divine, something sublime possessed a wildness and power that transcended human ability to control…or even to comprehend.
Sublime is standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon leaning as far as you dare over the railing and still not being able to see the canyon floor below. Sublime is warrior-queen Galadriel being tempted by the One Ring. Sublime is waking up in the middle of the night in the heart of a wild thunderstorm.
“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”
Gomez isn’t advising Fester to treat a woman he fancies like a princess, or even elevate her to pedestal of angelic nature (who’s idea was it to equate femininity with purity anyway? What a laughable and historically damaging idea. Shame on whatever dead (probably) white dudes promoted that!)
Gomez is advising Fester that if he truly loves a woman he must do everything he can to remind her of how she’s an untameable force of nature who’s grandeur brings him to his knees in awe and terror. Just like Morticia, for Gomez.
I’ll sign off with one of my most favorite quotes of all time, because it feels suddenly very relevant:
“When I find myself surrounded by so much beauty, I feel as if I am the eye of a hurricane.”
i came for stims and i got anti-semites and attacking someone for wanting to watch a movie.
i don’t support that hell movie. none of us wanna watch it but good GOD. that was terrible.
i lowkey wanted to say something but what’s the point? i probably would have gotten called ableist even though i’m a part of a system and i don’t even like the fucking movie.
you can apologize for hating real jewish people apparently but wanting to watch fake hollywood sleaze while acknowledging it’s a terrible portrayal of mental illness and not using it to form your opinion of said mental illness? nah just kill yourself.
maybe she was ableist before agreeing with someone else’s post, i dunno. if so i don’t give a shit about her either. what i’m pissed about is that hey, i thought this was a stim blog, a place i could look at calming gifs and feel less *insert fuzzystatic noise bc i still don’t have a word for it* but. it wasn’t. it was gross.
it wasn’t a safe space, that’s what i’m pissed about. but that’s on me and this is my vent post about how stupid i am for expecting anything from anyone else.
is it “convenient” for me to say i’m black and want to be more apart of the black community when i was shunned by the white kids i grew up with? when i was called a nigger by a grown ass man in the mall when i was only 3 years old and in no way old enough to know what he meant or why he would say it?
if you’re reading this at some point in the future looking for receipts then listen up. this is the only time i’ll explain this.
i don’t want to be oppressed. it’s a terrible feeling and even if i was white, i’d already be messed with for being a lesbian. but i’m not so here we are.
you know what white people have done for me? they’ve made me hate myself. they’ve made me desperate to tame my “kinky” hair, made me sit in a bathtub at the age of 4 with a brill-o pad trying to scrub the color out of my skin, made me conscious of how i was bigger than the other kids my age. they stole my innocence when i was 6, made me more cynical than a kid should be, made me angry and had the audacity to ask me “why do you hate me so much?” after they tormented me for years.
i don’t want to be oppressed. i want a culture. i want a community. i want a place that i belong.
so no, i’m not calling myself black for convenience. i’m not calling myself mixed to try and take anything away from anybody. i am what i am and i’m dealing with it, along with undoing the years of damage done to me by the people i was told were my “community” all this time.
good for you! welcome to the internet, you came to the right place!
now, how do you make a post? well depends on what you’re gonna post about!
“well i think-”
see that was your first mistake. you thinking implies you have an opinion. people on the internet don’t like opinions.
“okay well… people-”
alright, it doesn’t matter how you end that sentence or who you are. someone is gonna get offended. justifiably or no.
“uh… okay. *insert popular media* is-”
nope. that falls under opinions.
“WELL WHAT CAN I POST?!”
ah-ha, we’ve reached the heart of the matter!! what can you post?
whatever you want to post! you are free to say whatever you want! the glory of free speech!
but just because it doesn’t cost anything to say shit, doesn’t mean you won’t have to pay for what you say. someone is going to disagree with you. if what you said was bad enough, people will hate you. and the only thing you can do to avoid that?
I’m sorry Mark, but it’s one or the other. ether you believe it isn’t your place to speak on hate crimes against minorities that you aren’t a part of, or you don’t, but the fact that you chose this topic to brake your silence on and in this way speaks volumes.
“death to all jews” isn’t a joke (and you wanna talk “respect”? how about respecting jews? do jews not count as people in need of respect? cause lemme tell ya, “death to all jews” or “death to” any oppressed minority is beyond disrespectful), and the fact that he even for a second thought to do that tells us everything we need to know about him as a person, and the fact that you think it’s ok to even refer to it as a joke says a lot about you as well (and don’t think I didn’t notice the way you changed your voice, made it deeper, and used the volume and tone to intimidate us into not speaking out. hate to break it to ya but that only works irl).
Mark wants to insist that no matter how bad a person someone is, we must treat them with respect, and basic human decency.
tell me Mark, do you think this man will treat us with the same respect that you’re demanding we treat him and those like him?
you say “we’re ether all people who deserve respect or we’re not” and let me make it clear if that image isn’t enough: he thinks we are not, and openly talks about genocide, as nonchalantly as we talk about removing mosquitoes from the planet.
you say “we must take the high road”, and claim it’s hard because it’s “lonely”.
I’m sorry Mark, but it isn’t “hard” because it’s “lonely”, it’s impossible because doing so will result in our deaths. (and btw? what you’re doing here isn’t “the high road” that’s taken a lot of courage to take. it is, in fact, incredibly cowardly)
it is extremely easy to blow us off when you aren’t the one being targeted, when you aren’t the one being dehumanized and treated like a pest in need of extermination.
you aren’t the one scared to go to your place of worship because today could be the day it’s bombed with you in it. you aren’t the one scared walking down the street because today could be the day a police officer decides you’re a threat. you aren’t the one scared to hold the hand of your significant other (let alone kiss) because today could not only be the day that you yourself and your partner are murdered, but that show of affection could be the thing that sets off someone to then go and massacre your community.
if we lived in a world without bigotry, particularly this kind of wildly unchecked racism, maybe. maybe this could be a statement to listen to, or at least think about.
but until men in power stop debating my humanity and wondering how to best rid me from existence, along with everyone else deemed less than human, this could not be more ignorant, silencing, and actively helpful for men like richard spencer.
I want to reiterate something I was having a hard time putting into words last night.
the biggest problem I have with this, is how victim blaming it is.
he targets the entire message at the victims speaking out. he completely glossed over the actions of pewdiepie and focused the entire video on the message that “no matter how bad the person is, they deserve respect”
yet at no point did he call out bigots and tell them “no matter what you think of any minority, they are still human and deserving of respect”
he never addressed anyone besides those calling out bigotry.
and that’s where the problem really lies.
had this been a “hey nazis, jews are people too and deserving of respect, and hey jews nazis are still people too and deserving of respect” I’d have a lot less issue with this message. there’d still be some fucked up things in need of addressing, but at least then truly the intent would have been..at least there would have been an attempt at something good.
but instead this entire video is “hey jews, nazis are people too and deserving of respect” period, end of statement, all while using curse words and volume and clearly barely restrained anger (and everyone knows how violent and dangerous an angry man is).
that is the biggest reason this message is such a mess, and really shows where Mark’s actual morals lie.
what i want as a fan: all the antagonists get a redemption. all of em. even the diamonds. steven gets new moms, the earth is saved, everything is amazing !!!!
what i want as a viewer: resolution, answers, clear-cut villains that are meant to be villains and defeated in some sort of way, an ending that makes sense story wise, everyone is developed naturally (SHOW NOT TELL) and stebbo comes to some sort of conclusion. all on his own. he finds his own answers because the only person who could have given him the answers is gone so he takes everything he’s learned and figures out something that works for him. it’s not the best answer, it’s not meant to make him happy but it’s a conclusion and that’s all he wanted.
peridot’s redemption was fine. lapis… it was clear she was gonna be a god guy because even if she hated the cg’s, she loved steven. jasper? as much as i’d love big strong quartz mom (and lil ame-sis teaching big strong mom the ropes), i don’t know. i don’t know how this will play out. will steven figure out how to fix corruption? and if he does. will that change jasper’s feelings about why she’s against him and the cg’s to begin with? one of the things i love about her character is that she was built for a reason, yes. but her resolve is unwavering. she wants closure, she wants revenge for her diamond. and it doesn’t matter how amazing earth is, how nice steven is, she wants what she wants
the diamonds are oppressive dictators, don’t talk to me about diamond redemption in canon please. i don’t care.
rose quartz is the unquestioned stone of love so. yep
when it comes right down to it, to the bare bones of everything… rose isn’t a bad guy. she isn’t a saint either. there is no black and white when it comes to war, there will always be a grey area. rose did some good and some bad things in the name of her cause. taking down one of her kind’s oppressors? good thing. imprisoning one of her comrades for wanting to go further with the overthrowing of their kind’s oppressors? bad thing.
i will never agree with rose bubbling bismuth. especially because she kept it from pearl and garnet. that was undeniably a bad move™️ on her part.
sometimes people lose sight of what’s important when they set out to do something. rose’s mission was “free gems so they can explore their potential and save the earth!” but as we all know, you can’t save everyone. and for whatever reason, the free all gems part of her mission got lost or warped along the way.
maybe because at her core she was still a quartz solider who had shattered her diamond? i’m sure there are lots of people who you could talk to that would say “oh yes, i fought back against someone who oppressed/abused me but it was terrifying and stressful”
in the case of pearl (sorry for bringing up one of the least favorite cg’s in this but hey, comfort characters amirite?) we can see that letting things go and moving on is not an easy thing for gems. so even though it was the right thing to do, shattering pink diamond probably ate at rose’s psyche for a long time afterward to the point that she snapped and bubbled bismuth without saying a word. maybe she wanted to spare her friend from undergoing the same stress she was under, dragging the immense weight of killing her own creator behind her everywhere for the rest of her existence? doesn’t excuse what she decided or ended up doing.
you can understand someone’s choices without agreeing with them. that’s where rebellion comes in. and that’s where i hope steven unbubbling bismuth and talking to her about the diamonds and what they should do comes in. i doubt steven really understands all the things rose did just yet, especially since the gems tend to keep things from him. but i hope one day he does and he can make his own decisions with that understanding.
i don’t want steven to be what everyone expects him to be when he’s grown
Writing without music kind of gets me stuck. I don’t know what happens, I feel incomplete. The wrong type of music, however, throws me off. If, just like me, music is an important part of your writing process, this is the post for you.
